My journey began when I still a child and tests indicated that I was ‘inadequate’ from a very early age. Consequently I continued mostly unstimulated through school with the clear message that I should not expect to achieve anything outstanding. Knowing that I was not one of the intelligent ones gave me little drive to do well in GCSE’s and I just ‘did my time’.
Of course further education seemed pointless and 20 years of solid employment followed feeling like I had well and truly slipped through the net. Even though I knew I could achieve great things I plodded on fitting into the average and unfulfilling roles fitting for my careers advice.
By the time I was 35 I was depressed and I had struggled so much throughout life basically down to lack of adequate knowledge to enable me to thrive in adulthood. It was when I fell pregnant, in the knowledge that I would be a single-mum that I was determined not to see my daughter struggle and be the subject of stereotypical poverty that I took a leap of faith in my abilities.
I embarked on a Law Degree with the Open University and I am so glad I did. The parallel design of the KIH Bed and formation of KIH Products was quite accidental but I had a duty to share the product that I had designed, and to do so in a professional, quality and responsible way.
In the first year of my degree I gave birth, had my home repossessed, my employer sold the business and I was rapidly becoming a stereotypical single mum struggling with adversity but fighting for my life, or at least the life of my child. The remaining years were spent moving several times due to rejection for ‘normal’ homes subject to status and constantly trying to find the right home, several attempts to secure work that would allow me to be there for my child whilst enabling me to earn enough not to recoup contributions, and building up the business whilst somehow pinning my eyes open to read law books every time my daughter slept.
Note the repossession came following me seeking advice, from the mortgage company. I knew I could not afford the mortgage and I also knew that I could not be a responsible landlord without maintenance funds. I was kindly advised to sign over management to the mortgage company so that they could collect rent and pay maintenance directly from the mortgage account. They followed legal procedure and at the earliest opportunity they evicted my tenant (no rent arrears) and repossessed the house. I battled arbitration whilst studying et al but they knew what they were doing. My 10 years and £60K investment was gone in a flash and they sold at a loss leaving me with a deficit I am still liable for to this day.
So despite the pressures of legal battles, business building, house moves, desperately seeking the sanctuary of work around my daughter and many other difficulties thrown in I successfully completed my Law Degree.
Now, as a single-mum, a multi-award-winning entrepreneur (supporting the UK economy and at least 5 UK businesses with every single UK and overseas order), a Law Graduate, and with the confidence and knowledge that I should have had 25 years ago I will continue to rebuild our stability and I will make sure that my daughter is as adequately prepared as possible.
My only aim now is to help, inspire and advise others via whichever mediums possible.
For a country who claims to promote equality, to then measure intelligence and segregate human beings at such a tender age, delivering a very strong, profoundly damaging message is beyond my comprehension. I used to think that I let the school down, but I can now safely say that it was the school system, not recognising the intelligent, kind, entrepreneurial diamond that stood before them, that let me down.
I have mentioned in my previous blog that Law should be on the National Curriculum, and that every child regardless of status or tests should be entitled to an EQUAL education. We do not celebrate diversity in children, we try to mould them and make sure that they are far from educated equally, at the earliest given opportunity.
The National curriculum in England framework gives that and I quote:
Every state-funded school must offer a curriculum which is balanced and broadly based* and which:
- promotes the spiritual, moral, cultural, mental and physical development of pupils at the school and of society
- prepares pupils at the school for the opportunities, responsibilities and experiences of later life
source 6/10/16: https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/national-curriculum-in-england-framework-for-key-stages-1-to-4/the-national-curriculum-in-england-framework-for-key-stages-1-to-4
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