C19 – Find Your Power!

When we are faced with adversity, we can let it ruin us, or we can sit with it, sail the stormy rivers, and look forward to dry land.. it is true that an entire sea of water can only drown a ship if that ship lets the water in. There is no denying it, this pandemic is tough, Covid19 is doing all that it can to ensure that you produce Cortisol, the stress hormone, instead of Oxytocin, the hormone that promotes feelings of love, wellbeing, and contentment.

Do not underestimate the power of the serenity prayer, and the power of your own ability to look beyond C19. Of course there is fear, and we all want to be here to look back at C19, but outside of taking precautions, whether or not we fall victim to C19 is pretty much out of our control, at least until the vaccine comes in, so what can we do? of course, we can hope for health, but then we need to look at our other fears, fear of financial hardship, fear of loss of work or home, vehicle, status or life’s little luxuries. This is where I am very lucky. I have lost everything, at least in the material sense, my home, my car, my personal belongings that had any value as I sold them bit by bit for food when the payday loans ran out.. it is tough, but, it will not destroy you, it is short-term pain. I know it’s a cliche, but the best things in life really are free. Nature, love, we can talk on the phone, we can indulge in tv and social media to interact. We can PLAN. You can also talk to companies about debts, normally you can freeze interest and make nominal payments until you get back on your feet, and you can ask people not to call you if you are vulnerable to breaking down with the pressure. Just trust others to be human if you give them the chance.

I was living in terrible conditions, I could not afford a fridge or a cooker, any kind of TV ariel or internet, a car, or food with nutrition, but I walked to the library, I walked in the woods, I boiled eggs and potatoes in the steamer and I planned, I planned my life, my business, my work, I studied, I accepted what I could not change in that moment in time, and I looked forward to all of the things I could. I was sad that I could not go to the festival, but I put in on the calendar for two years later, I knew that I would go, I just had to know that this wasn’t the year that I would go. I couldn’t visit family, to embarrassed to declare fuel poverty and too proud to ask for a visit. My point, don’t get stuck in this moment. It can be very painful, and many things will change, but you have a life beyond Covid, you have a future, whatever that looks like, and if you can live it with gratitude and peace, you will be happy, even if you are not rich, in the financial sense. The only thing we need to do is get thru it, be patient, trust our medical professionals to come up with a vaccine, trust that next Christmas will be beautiful, shared with those we love, and that next Halloween we will have parties and next summer we will hug everybody we love, more grateful for BBQ’s, weddings and picnics in the park! We have SO much to look forward to. Please don’t get lost in the moment. Please don’t let the Cortisol win.

Your body [I read] cannot produce Cortisol and Oxytocin at the same time, so you can force it either way – we are what we eat they say! With every bite of mushrooms, peppers, tomatoes, spinach and avocado you are protecting your body and your mind from a deep depression – trust me – I’m the lab rat!

I have been blogging for four years now, to try and help those of you who still have a really hard time with life and its challenges. I published Finding Happiness and Freeing Your Spirit in 2016 and I am in the process of having this converted to an audio book (thanks to https://nartanrosevoiceover.com/#audio_pro)

– you can listen to the clip here..

I am also a Confidante, and offer one to one appointments via Zoom – you can book an hour with me HERE, just to talk.

Also, in March 2021 I am co-organising Find Your Power – an event that WILL go ahead, even if C19 debilitates it short-term, we will move it if we have to, but it WILL go ahead, we WILL laugh, we will hug, we will love and produce Oxytocin so that C19 can not survive he airwaves. Click the image below to visit the website.

https://find-your-power.com/

You are all very powerful today – you can spread love, or you can spread fear. We are what we eat, only give your brain the good stuff, the long-term vision, so that it can keep the short-term in perspective.

Sharing with love as always

Jules x

A personal update

It has been four years since I started sharing my mind with you all, and I thank you for following with interest. The book that inspired this blog, is currently being narrated as an audio book, and, I am now offering to work with clients on a one to one basis as a confidante. So here is my updated introduction, and I look forward to speaking with you, if you would like a safe space to share your private matters in confidence. Jules x

Webinar this Thursday. Jules & Joe. Discussing how to thrive despite obstacles.

On Thursday Joe and I will be holding a webinar to discuss some matters close to our hearts. We have called it ‘Thriving despite obstacles’ although I confess I wanted to call it ‘Don’t be an a**hole’. Joe is clearly a good influence on me!

We will discuss:
Black Lives Matter and George Floyd – the emotions that surface and what needs to change
Single Parents – taking positive action and why it matters (bigger issues)
Humanity – and how lack of is the core of where we need to focus our attention and education – TV Entertainment
Abuse – walking in fear, healing and education
Homophobia – lack of humanity, walking in fear, healing and education
Exclusion groups and safe space amongst peers

‘Flexible Working isn’t an option.’ That’s what my employer confirmed during my maternity. I had to choose, my career or my daughter? I chose my daughter, and paid the price.

When I say I paid the price I want to be clear from the off, I do not and never have regretted choosing my daughter.  Every cuddle, every tear, every moment.  The priceless gift of looking after another life… but why do you have to pay the price financially when it would be so easy … Continue reading ‘Flexible Working isn’t an option.’ That’s what my employer confirmed during my maternity. I had to choose, my career or my daughter? I chose my daughter, and paid the price.

Employees are Vulnerable. It’s time to step up.

Why are half of the UK living in relative poverty? Why have wages not increased with inflation? Why are employers putting profits before people. Why are Parliament putting Property before People? Why do employers wait for leadership and profit at the expense of their employees. Why, why, why.

Housing Crisis & Shelter

With connection comes greater understanding and raised awareness of how we can help to build a better society, it is not a selfless act, building a happier society where people are not living in desperate situations rubs off on everybody, including the people you love. It just needs a few leaders, a few game-changers, a few people in power with the ability to make small life altering changes to what is perceived to be normal.

Friendship, Love and Giving

There are several affirmations that people are not ignoring you – they are busy and that you should get busy too, and whilst they mean well, and come from a place of some truth, it was one of the most offensive ways of trying to help people who are feeling ignored, lonely, and that their friends and family are failing them. There is a truth to people being busy, but I would prefer to use the term ‘distracted’…

My Formal Graduation – Summarising the Journey        

My journey began when I still a child and tests indicated that I was ‘inadequate’ from a very early age.  Consequently I continued mostly unstimulated through school with the clear message that I should not expect to achieve anything outstanding.  Knowing that I was not one of the intelligent ones gave me little drive to … Continue reading My Formal Graduation – Summarising the Journey        

Let’s start with 9-5… or should I say man-made manslaughter!

Frankly 9-5 monday to friday does not work… of course it works in the logistical sense of having your entire workforce arrive at the same time, working the same hours for ease of meetings and customer contact but it was designed – by man – in very different times. Guess what, we have technology, we … Continue reading Let’s start with 9-5… or should I say man-made manslaughter!